Body language is probably the oldest means of communication and yet it often goes unappreciated. We advertently or inadvertently use body language all the time. Sometimes we just do not realize it.

If you walk by in a crowded place and observe people, you will see how much body language is being used around you to send out signals. Body language can be used to send out various signals about how you are feeling. You could send out signals that you are interested, not interested, angry, lonesome, frustrated and so on.

All this can be accomplished by using subtle body language signs. Some people are masters in the fine art of employing body language to their advantage. Others simply have no idea of what body language is all about.

One needs to understand and learn what and how people communicate through body language. This is particularly important when the objective is to draw attention of the opposite sex.

Your love interest needs to know whether you are interested or not. This has to be communicated in a very subtle way using appropriate body language. If you are interested in the opposite sex then you must make it clear through your body language signs.

You can stare meaningfully with a look of interest in your eyes. Remember your eyes are the window to the mind and they reflect what goes on in your head. Show some love in your eyes and then gently look away with a coy smile. That can hook anyone.

She has to be plain stupid if she does not get that one. Do this a couple of times but do not overdo it. Then have the guts to look longer and smile knowingly.

The object of your desire or shall we say attention should get a clear idea that you are interested in her and that the rest of the world does not hold much interest for you. Use your head and nod a couple of times. Smoothen your hair and straighten your tie while still looking at her.

Gently roll your fingers across your glass like a gentle caress. Lean towards her in a meaningful way while still holding her gaze.

Even a dumb fool should understand that signal. A woman should gently toss her hair back while looking at him and show him that you are interested in him. If you are seated you can cross and uncross your legs while looking at him. That should make him sweat a little. You can simply flutter your eyelashes gently at him and smile as you do so.

If he does not understand this then there is no point in wasting your precious time anymore. He probably is not worth it anyway. Follow him with your eyes. Let him know that you are following his every movement. This could be a little unnerving but if he has something for you, he will respond immediately like a panting dog.

Body language is an art and those who can master this art are at a distinct advantage. If you not one of these lucky ones then you would be well advised to quickly take up a course in understanding body language.

To communicate successfully you need to go through the following stages. They are:

1. Absorption of information from an external source by listening or reading, etc,

2. Interpretation or understanding the meaning of the information, and

3. Reaction to the stimuli through behavior, to express your emotions.

The first step is made possible with the help of the sense organs such as the eyes, ears, etc, to detect the information and the external data provided to us from a particular source. The absorption of information from an external source can be called as an objective process.

The second stage is passed by the use of the brain and the network of nerves to effectively analyze and understand the external data in the form of sounds, colors, pictures, etc, and interpret it as accurately and as precisely as possible in the shortest span of time. Interpretation of data is also called as a subjective process.

The third step is to effectively communicate the interpretation of the analyzed data through physical actions, language, gestures, etc. The reaction to a particular situation may vary from person to person as it is composed of an objective and as well as a subjective process.

Certain situations have a positive outcome while some other situations may not necessarily have a positive result. Behaviorists explain communication as a pattern wherein you understand a particular situation or a stimuli and react to it subjectively.

Freudian psychoanalysis explains that we respond to the external data or situations presented to us on the basis of our past experiences. Psychoanalysis considers the interpretation of the external stimuli as the most important aspect of communication whereas behaviorists completely define communication as a series of mechanical stimulus-response pattern and they do not believe in the interpretation aspect of communication.

Hence, according to behavioral psychologists we react to situations and to data similar to a computer program. The importance of the mind and consciousness in communication has only been recently acknowledged in scientific psychology which is a strange piece of fact to believe.

Humans communicate effectively through various forms of communication. Some of the forms of communication through which humans communicate are through letters, messages, phone calls, personal face to face conversation, glances, paper publications and physical contact, through sex, scale through seminars, technical conferences, local and national newspapers, press releases, books, etc,.

The use of technology like the internet has helped in the advancement of communication and has made communication easy, fast and reliable. Emails, forums, blogs and networking have improved communication to a great extent in today’s world.

Communication has grown to be an indispensable aspect of our modern lives. Though communication has grown to a great extent in today’s world, yet there is a difference between the ideas communicated and the ideas perceived.

This is called as the communication gap. It can be avoided if all input parameters such as all verbal, non verbal, indirect and direct elements of communication are properly understood and perceived. In the personal as well as in the business front, communication does not necessarily rely on verbal ideas and suggestions but also on the body expressions and the way you present yourself before others to achieve a particular outcome or result.

The communication gap can prove to be very dangerous to communication. The use of technology such as the internet and telephone has made reaction to the stimuli a different experience. However, interpretation of the stimuli is a very important aspect of communication and it helps us to understand better the external data such as sound, picture, etc, based on our past experiences.

A stellar example of body language can be observed by watching bees communicate with each other. When a bee wants to notify other bees of where to go to acquire nectar, they move in a particular way so as to demonstrate this to the others.

The bees’ companions take note of their instructions and fly away to the communicated location without any oral language being utilized. Humans also incorporate body language into our everyday lives to express what we cannot say with words.

Our use of body language has been ingrained into us from our very births, with our parental interactions guiding us on the bath to hone our body language skills. Body language is took in when people monitor the silent communication expressed by others, -known as ‘tells’ – while at the same time listening to what the person is expressing orally.

It has been factually proven that humans rely more on body language for communication than they do words. In fact, around 80% to 90% of communication is understood through body language, a language that cannot tell a falsehood.

Although body language cannot lie it can, in fact, be manipulated. In a certain game used to understand body language involving telling stories, one person tells another something true as well as something false, not revealing which is which.

The second person then tries to determine which item is a truth and which item is a falsehood, then proceeding to identify the other with the assumed truthful fact and proclaiming this to a larger group.

Should the introducer be wrong in their assumption of which fact is true and which fact is false, the first person corrects them and explains why the introducer was wrong. In addition to being an efficient icebreaker, this game demonstrates that human intuition is largely influential and often accurate in determining fiction and falsehoods from non-fiction and truths.

The interpreting of body language by one person can be interrupted, or hindered so to speak, by the person demonstrating the body language. The skill of the person being interpreted in how to mask their body language to appear a certain way is called acting.

However, there is no inherent trickery in body language, it is a natural human tool of communication. Due to this fact, being consciously aware of one’s body language can be extremely beneficial, especially when employed in vocations that require persuading someone to act a certain way or believe a certain thing.

This mastering and consciousness of one’s body language can be taught and honed over time. This being said, body language can also work as a detriment when no employed in a positive and proper way.

An example of this is the well-known body language standard of smiling at and correctly touching another person to build a positive rapport when greeting them. However, standards of how to great other differ from culture to culture.

A firm handshake paired with a confident look into one another’s eyes is a standard and expected procedure of greeting in many cultures. However, some cultures become quite offended at such proceedings.

Another example is that South Americans relish in close physical proximity to those they are communicating with whereas British folk and Americans are often more comfortable with a personal bubble of sorts to be surrounding them when they are involved in discussions.

Keeping all this in mind, it is clear that the importance of understanding and being conscious of body language is highly crucial.